The Rihanna Abuse Interview – Why now?

6 11 2009

I feel for the girl, pretty much being beaten in front of the whole world and then your relationship woes are on everyone’s lips.  As a woman who girls look up to, it was wonderful that she spoke about her abuse by Chris Brown but I wish she didn’t do it the same month as the release of her new album.

I used to be in an abusive relationship so I have all the sympathy in the world for Rihanna. No one should have to live in a situation where they are being phyiscally and or emotionally abused by someone they love. I’m glad the media went to town with Chris Brown and called him out on his actions, I just have one little problem with this situation lately. As a former abused spouse who knows how difficult it was to get out of that kind of situation, I would’ve love if Rihanna talked openly to the press a few months prior. I can’t help but feel because her album is being released later this month might’ve had a lot to do with her sudden urge to talk. I have to keep in mind she’s young and has probably been urged to do talk by her publicists or whoever.  Kind of came of as a little disingenuine to me. I really should to try to  focus on the very important message that Rihanna is putting out there but timing is everything!

 





More on Facebook Affairs

5 11 2009

Even though I can think of a couple of people that have had ruined relationships over Facebook affairs, the more I researched, the more I found out this becoming a real problem.

Most of these situations are due to married women reconnecting with an old love, or high school friend. I have read comment after comment from men who have their marriage ruined due to their wive’s Facebook lover. The men are referring to it like their wives have been brainwashed. Their spouses seem to be throwing everything and apparently this happens very quickly. What are the possible causes to this.

Boredom comes to mind. I think women are hardwired to need positive attention and it doesn’t take much to get a married woman to melt when her husband is watching football or oblivious to her new hairstyle. I’m not trying to blame men here at all but it’s definately true without a doubt. Women will fall for it, this is why Edward Cullen the uber-romantic vampire from the Twilight series has entered the heart of so many housewives. He made his life (or whatever you want to call it) about his love Bella. That’s what women want deep down, to be told they’re appreciated and desirable.

Now on to those poor men who can’t find comfort with their wives, so they find it with their lab partner back in the class of ‘86. Their wives become indifferent and they need those understanding words, or they just plain old need sex. No matter how happily married you are, you can make it justifiable in your mind to cheat on your spouse. Man or woman we crave the attention and it’s that addiction to the way it makes us feel that causes all the trouble. It’s it really that Facebook friend you’ve got the hots for, or is it the compliments or instant attention you love.  As long as you all realize that in time, that person you’ve left your spouse for will soon become that boring partner who now ignores you as well.





The Twilight Series – New Moon – Extended Preview

4 11 2009

I thought about posting this because while I was checking out my new favourite website, www.FML.com, I found a post that a young man had posted. He explained that his girlfriend had dumped him because he wasn’t like Edward. “He’s a fictional character” he wrote. Well young men, middle aged women are now comparing their less-than-doting husbands to Edward Cullen as well.  Most of my friends have read the Twilight series and all of their husbands haven’t read it and hate Edward. Even I, who has a house full of males and have heard, “Screw Edward!” more time than I can count.

Enjoy!





Facebook Affairs

3 11 2009

I’m noticing a bit of a trend with a few of my friends lately. Facebook affairs. The ones I’m referring to are women of their late thirties who have reconnected with an old high-school friend. Usually not an old boyfriend, just a friend.  It’s starts with those humorous status comments and the it evolves to e-mails. Then it turns into that old boyfriend admiting his marriage is unhappy and he has fallen in love with you. In the last year alone I have hear of about four instances of this with my friends. If they ended up persuing their Facebook boyfriend I have no idea and I don’t ever want to know. Even with Rabbi Shmuley explaining to American males on his show Shalom in the Home, that women need affection and attention and if you ignore them they will look for it elsewhere, husbands still don’t seem to get this and now with Facebook all these cyberaffairs are happening right under their noses.

I’d love to see the number of divorces caused by Facebook.





What Happens when your Spouse of 67 years Dies?

1 11 2009

My aunt died today. She was 82 and met my uncle when they were 13. They courted for years and married when they were 21. My uncle is an intelligent man, a retired engineer as a matter of fact, whose life for the last almost 70 years has been living with his wife . Then living for the last 15 living in a retirement condo in the US. This is where I can’t grasp it, almost 70 years together. My uncle can take care of himself, he knows how to do it, but how do you get used to suddenly living with a person you’ve lived with for that long? I’ve heard of story after story of an elderly person dying and then soon afterward their spouse dies too. How will my uncle look at the bed they shared together for so long? Waking up everyday and my aunt not being there. When something interesting happens in my uncle’s day and he won’t be able to tell her. She’s gone forever and I can’t imagine how that must feel for my uncle who has been with her for most of his life. It’s not only my auntie dying, it’s the death of their relationship.

How do you mourn that?